(*So I was asked if i could write down my thoughts on being a man for a thesis project. This was the result, and I would also like to share this with you.)
It’s a popular saying that people blurt about when encouraging or doing pep talks on someone. But what is that all about?
What should a man be?
What is it to be a man?
Some say it’s all about the looks, the abs, the low voice, the guy. More on the physical.
On the dictionary, a man is a male guy. The one does the work, the one with a good and toned up figure, the one who’s not afraid to do anything, because he’s a man.
But isn’t this wrong now? Times change and now not all men do the work. Not all men have a good figure and a toned up body, and actually the “dad bod” thing is now a trend. And not all men can really fight hard with their all cuz some are really scared and scream all the chill they have out of cockroaches.
Let’s not limit a “man” to these things. A “man” is a human being, just like you and me. Even though scientifically, we have inclinations to such differences, times change and we too as living being evolve to the cultures of the world. We adjust. We change.
Being a man maybe has it’s definitions, but now being a man can’t be put into one container and say “oh this IS a man”.
Let’s give that respect a man needs to be his own person.
If you know someone who’s struggling with his own identity, then let him figure out who he his. Help him define himself as a good friend. Be supportive, guide him to what’s good and move him away from what’s bad. He’ll still be the one to pick his choices.
If you’re the one who’s struck by this article, then my advice,
Just be you.
Like Pia from miss universe,
“Be Confidently, Handsome, with a heart”
RM Cristobal is behind the blog RM Wanders. He's a multimedia artist and a blogger/vlogger. A guy who loves to travel, eat, teach, and use media to live and love for the Glory of God. Connect with him through the social media links!